Top Ten Things Parents Should Know

1. You've made a great choice in choosing Macalester

Macalester has been preparing students for world citizenship and providing an integrated international education for over six decades. Students come from every state and over 90 countries for an academic program that ranks among the top 20 in the nation. Your son or daughter will benefit from the opportunity to learn in a vibrant and diverse community with faculty who love to teach, advisors and staff who are committed to providing support and guidance, and a location that offers broad accessible research and internship opportunities in a friendly neighborhood.

2. The College, you, and your student are in partnership

For the past 18 years or so you have likely been at the center of your son or daughter's life, and particularly their educational experience. In college that responsibility transfers to your college student. Most communication from the college will be directed at your son or daughter. We encourage your son or daughter to keep you appropriately informed about his or her life, but also encourage you to honor her or his adulthood and privacy while remaining connected. If after discussion with your daughter or son, you remain confused, please call the appropriate person at Macalester to assist you.

3. Understand the transition of a first-year student

The college years are a time of growth, change, and exploration. It is a time for students to gain the life skills they will need to become successful, independent adults. It is not uncommon for students who were academically confident and successful in high school to experience some self-doubt as they become surrounded with equally competent peers. They may receive "average" grades for the first time and they may experience this as a crisis. Parental understanding is very important; academic struggles may not reflect lack of effort or ability but an adjustment to the academic rigor of Macalester.

Parents can be an essential source of support, encouragement, and advice. However, it is important for parents to allow students room to fail, experience disappointments, and question their identity and beliefs. These are learning experiences that help students understand the consequences of their actions, prepare them for the "real world," and help them to develop a true sense of self. Resist the temptation to rush in to "save" your son or daughter when times get difficult. Show your support and concern, but trust that he or she has the skills and resources to work things out. The parent and families handbook can be a valuable resource, particularly on what to expect the first year.

4. Stay Connected

Communicate with your student via phone, e-mail, and "snail" mail. Students do miss home and family, although they may not express this directly to you. Sending treats and care packages, asking about their lives, and expressing pride in their accomplishments may be valued even more now that they are away from home. Expect that your student will not respond to all of your contacts, but know that he or she appreciates hearing from you. Family Fest Weekend is an excellent way to reconnect with your student.

5. Ask questions and Discuss Difficult Topics

Despite the distance, you do still have a tremendous influence on your son or daughter's behavior. In college, your son or daughter will have to make their own decisions about what time to get up in the morning, when to study, when to exercise, which organizations to participate in, what to eat, whether or not to drink alcohol, how much alcohol to drink if any, and whether or not to engage in sexual relationships. While you cannot force your student to behave exactly as you would want them to, parents can share their values and beliefs with their students on these topics. Studies show that parents influence their child's behavior regarding drugs, alcohol, and risky sexual behavior even after their child leaves for college. Provide your student with the facts on these issues, and empower them to distinguish between good and bad decisions when it comes to their behavior, health, and safety. Create an atmosphere of open communication, and your student will not only appreciate that you respect him or her as an adult, but he or she will also be more likely to turn to you for guidance.

6. Know Campus Resources

Utilize the larger Macalester website to become familiar with life at Mac. These resources provide a great deal of information about the college and its departments. Helping your student to navigate the college by referring him or her to the appropriate resources is one of the best ways for you to mentor your college student during this transition to adulthood. By acting as a referral source, you can demonstrate that you are interested in your student's life at Macalester, and at the same time, you empower your student to solve his or her own problems.

7. Do Not Say, "These are the best years of your life"

The first year of college can be full of indecision, insecurities, disappointments, and most of all, mistakes. It's also full of discovery, inspiration, good times, and exciting people. It may take a while for students to realize that their Hollywood-created images of what college is all about are wrong. There aren't many images that show that college is about being scared, confused, overwhelmed, and making mistakes. Students may feel these things and worry that they are not "normal" because what they're feeling is in contrast to what they've been led to believe while growing up. Parents can help by understanding that the highs and lows of college life are a critical part of your son or daughter's development, and by providing the support and encouragement to help him or her understand this as well.

8. Understand FERPA (Federal Family Education Rights and Privacy Act )

The privacy protection FERPA gives to students is very broad. With limited exceptions, the FERPA regulations give privacy protection to all students' "education records." Examples of student records entitled to FERPA privacy protection are grade reports, transcripts, and most disciplinary files. FERPA does not cover counseling or medical records but other policies do. If you are interested in obtaining your student's grades or other information, please discuss this with your son or daughter. (S)he can give you the password to access his/her academic record found on the Macalester website. If parents want to receive a paper copy of the student record, the student must go into the Registrar's office and sign a waiver requesting the record be sent to their parents or guardians. FERPA is enforced by the U.S. Department of Education. The Department maintains a FERPA website, with links to FERPA regulations.

9. Important learning happens both inside and outside of the classroom

Defining and training leaders capable of creating positive change is an important aspect of the Macalester experience. Equally important is the concept of participation in and responsibility to a community. Through a variety of campus wide and department specific programs and initiatives, Macalester students gain valuable opportunities to test and put into practice the information they are learning in the classroom. These activities are intended to create fun, yet challenging learning opportunities that will complement the student's academic experience. National studies show that students who challenge themselves by getting involved outside of the classroom have higher rates of success in college.

Members of Campus Programs, Department of Multicultural Life, Center for Religious and Spiritual Life, the Civic Engagement Center, International Student Program, Health and Wellness, Residential Life as well as academic department staff members work with student leaders in the planning and implementation of dances, concerts, lectures, faculty-student get-togethers, and a variety of other events. Encourage your college student to connect their interests to one of these activities to take full advantage of the opportunity to enhance their skills and learning.

10. It's never too early to explore future plans

The Career Development Center (CDC) provides support and encouragement to Macalester students in developing, interpreting, and applying their educational experience to meet their goals. First and second year students will benefit from programs and individual advising related to deciding on a major, developing strategies for skill building through activities and involvement, finding summer employment, and linking academic experiences with career goals. The exploration of career possibilities is developing and expanding by the junior year when students are completing internships and building off-campus experiences. As students approach their senior year and career interests begin to take shape, career counseling includes building job search skills, preparing graduate/professional school/fellowship applications and networking with alumni.