COMMON REACTIONS TO SEXUAL ASSAULT

Having someone completely controlling your body and actions often leaves one feeling out of control in every aspect of their life following the rape. The reactions and feelings you may have now, or in the near future, may include some or all of the following:

• Shock or numbness--feeling nothing
• Feeling out of control
• Nightmares/not being able to sleep
• Angry with yourself and/or others
• Restless sleep/fear of the dark
• Dependency on familiar friends
• Depression/disorganization
• Wondering what you did to deserve the attack
• Feeling jumpy
• Being worried that you will never feel normal again
• Denial that the rape happened
• Eating problems/upset stomach
• Denial that the rape was serious
• Increased use of drugs or alcohol
• Fear of public places
• Cynicism
• Fear of being alone
• Fear of new relationships
• Unable to have physical intimacy
  

It could also happen that you do not experience many or any of these feelings or behaviors. At any time, however, something may trigger your memory of the assault and throw you into crisis. "I must be crazy" is a common thought during this crisis; however, feeling the effects of a sexual assault long after it has happened is a common experience. These feelings may surface when they are least expected. You may choose to block them out or find yourself wanting to talk about the assault over and over again. All of this is typical, normal behavior for survivors of rape. As you experiences these feelings and behaviors, realize that a counselor could help you get through the rape and assist in stopping unhealthy behaviors and move to a path toward healing.